How to Make a Girl Smile

Making a Connection

Smile at her. Often it’s as easy as making eye contact and smiling to get a girl to smile back. If it doesn’t work, keep trying, and you might get a smile yet. You might even try a sillier smile to see if it might make her laugh. Smiling is a good way to open up a conversation, because it makes both you and her happier. When you smile, it literally changes chemicals in your brain, making you feel happier, and smiles are catching. That means, when someone sees a smile, they want to smile, too, making them happier.

Talk to her. Ask questions about her and what she likes. Find things you have in common. By discovering what you both like, she might see you in a different way than before. And she'll smile because it shows that you enjoy talking to her. It also sets you up with ideas of what to do in the future. You can also ask her about how her day/weekend went, how her classes are going, etc. Even if she had a bad day, asking her about it would show that you care.

Compliment her. Everyone likes to hear nice things about themselves, and so, a compliment is sure to make her smile. The best compliments are sincere, which means you really mean it. Take a moment to study her, so you can tell her what you really do like about her. You don't have to stick to looks. You can also compliment her brains, her brilliant smile, or her sparkling wit. For example, you could say, "The dress looks good on you!" You could also say, "You know, you're really smart! You always seem to have the right answer in class." Another option is, "You have the best hair! I love how wavy it is." Don't get too carried away. If she looks uncomfortable, then stop.

Making Her Laugh

Make sure you have her attention first. You can't make someone laugh if they're not paying any attention to you. Make sure you have her attention before you try anything funny, such as walking up to her and saying "Hello" or making eye contact with her.

Poke fun of yourself. Poking fun at yourself shows you don’t take yourself too seriously, and that’s an attractive quality. Plus, any time you can crack a joke, even at your own expense, will help to make a girl smile, and it can help lighten up any tension in the room that may be the cause of the girl's frown. This type of humor works especially well when you do something a little silly or clumsy. For instance, if you trip over your shoelaces when she's around, you could say, "If only someone had taught me to tie my shoes, I wouldn't be in this situation." It can also work if she does something clumsy. You can take the attention off her by poking fun at yourself. For instance, you could say, "That wasn't clumsy. Let me tell you about clumsy. One time, I tripped on my own shoe and went tumbling down the stairs. Now THAT was clumsy. What you just did was just cute."

Crack a joke. Cracking a joke shows you have some confidence. Not every joke is going to be a winner, but just the attempt can make her smile. Some of the main ingredients of a good joke include finding the right target, having the element of surprise, exaggerating everyday life, and having the basis of truth. The "target" refers to what you tell the joke about. When telling a joke to someone, the target should be relevant to their interests. For instance, telling a combat joke to a teenage girl may not make much sense, since she's (likely) never been in combat. The surprise is the twist to the joke that makes it funny. Exaggerating makes it funny because it takes it beyond the every day while still keeping an element of truth. For example, if you're eating together in the cafeteria, try cracking a joke about the food. You could say something like, "This food is so terrible my dog would turn up his nose at it."

Be silly. Even in junior high and high school, being silly can make people smile or laugh. You can try silly voices, or you can attempt an impression of someone famous. You could even employ some slapstick humor, such as "accidentally" spraying yourself with the water fountain by holding your thumb over the stream. Be aware that slapstick could backfire if the girl just finds it ridiculous. It could also backfire and hurt you if you are not careful enough. Think about what makes you or your friends laugh, as she'll likely find some of the same things funny.

Try a silly dance. Another way to make to make someone laugh is to do a silly dance. Of course, you don't want to just run up to a girl and start doing a gorilla a dance. However, if you're standing near her, and some music came on, you could start doing a silly dance in time to the music. A classic silly dance is the chicken dance. Be sure to bug out your eyes and make a chicken face. Some silly songs and dances go hand-in-hand, such as "I'm a little tea pot."

Making a Girlfriend Smile

Stay in touch. Text her fun messages or leave her voice messages to wake up to in the morning. Sending her little messages lets her know you're thinking about her and makes her feel loved and supported. It's sure to put a smile on her face. If you can't text her, try social media instead. Make sure that she uses the platform. Some social media platforms have both public and private options. Stick with the private ones.

Be there for her. When she lets you know that she needs or wants your help, make sure you are there. If she's upset, make sure you provide a shoulder to cry on. When you say you'll do something, make sure you're there. If you make a date with her, show up on time and be genuine about it. If she knows you are true to your word and a person she can depend on, she'll definitely smile more. Don't force things, however. Sometimes, people need their space. If the girl is upset and pushes you away, don't force her to interact with you. Give her some time and space. Sometimes, you can't be there for her due to uncontrollable circumstances. In these cases, let her know you are sorry and offer to make it up to her.

Tease her or play with her. You could lightly arm wrestle with her or tickle her, too. Not in a mean way, but in a cute way that allows her to realize you want to share a special connection with her. Try holding her hand or hugging her by surprise. However, if she pulls back, make sure to let her go, as she may not want to be touched right then. Don't take things too far, and keep in mind that not all girls like to be teased.

Apologize when you've done something wrong. That's it, you've done it again. You've done something wrong, and now you're girlfriend's mad. The only way out of this situation is to apologize, truly and sincerely, by admitting what you did wrong and asking how you can make up for what you did. Only then will you have a smiling girlfriend again (eventually). For instance, just saying, "OK, I'm sorry," isn't going to cut it. Rather, you should say something like, "I'm sorry I forgot to meet you after school. I know I made you wait around for me, and that sucks for you. Maybe I can buy you a soda right now to make up for it?"

Surprising Her

Make her something. Nothing says you’re interested in her more than taking the time to make her something. It can be as simple as flowers to as fancy as a DIY project. After all it's the thought and the surprise that count. Here are some ideas to get you started: Pick some wildflowers and put them in a vase. Make a braided bracelet out of yarn or beads. Bake her some cookies or brownies. Make sure she's not allergic to anything first!

Show you’re listening. Show her that you are getting to know the real girl, and her likes and dislikes. Also, pay attention when she tells a story. It says something about her, and she'll be touched if you remember it later. For example, if she talks about a particular band that you’ve never heard, find it and listen to it. She will probably be impressed that you went to the trouble of listening to it. Bring her things she mentions. If she said she likes coffee, bring her coffee one day.

Give her a gift. It doesn’t have to be big, but it should be thoughtful. She should know that you’ve been thinking about her. It should also show that you know the kinds of things she likes and likes to do. In other words, it should be thoughtful. If she collects things, like stickers, pins, pens, or hair bows, bring her a new one that you know she'll like. If she likes to read, pick a used book to give to her. You could also bring her a piece of chocolate or her favorite soda.

Take her on a surprise outing. It doesn’t have to be fancy, just something that will be new and surprising and bring a smile to her face. Think about the kinds of activities she likes, and come up with a plan. In fact, you could even ask some questions to figure out what she likes, without giving away the surprise, such as, "So what are some of your favorite restaurants in town? I love Betty's Burgers." Visit a free art gallery, or go have coffee and dessert at a coffee shop. Take a walk by the lake to feed the ducks. Join a free dancing lesson, or go browse the library together.