What Is a Trophy Husband? (Plus How to Become One)

• A trophy husband is a younger, attractive man in a relationship with an older, wealthier person.
• A trophy husband also sometimes refers to a stay-at-home dad.
• Being a trophy husband isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but don’t call someone a trophy husband unless you know they’re okay with it.

What is a trophy husband?

A trophy husband is a younger, attractive man whose partner supports their lifestyle. Have you ever heard the term “trophy wife”? “Trophy husband” is similar. It usually means that the younger, more attractive man in the relationship doesn’t work, and is supported by their older, wealthier partner.

A trophy husband can also refer to a stay-at-home dad. A trophy husband doesn’t always have to be younger with a wealthier partner! Nowadays, if a man stays at home with the children instead of working to support the family, he might be referred to as a “trophy husband.” This definition of trophy husband is usually a bit more of a joke, and it’s mostly lighthearted fun. In this scenario, the man’s partner may not be older or wealthier than them; they may just be the breadwinner for the family.

A trophy spouse sometimes refers to the spouse of a narcissist. When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, it can be hard to tell if they love you for who you are, or if they’re only with you because of their own image. A “trophy partner” or “trophy spouse” can sometimes mean the partner of a narcissist who’s only around to boost a narcissist’s ego. Identify a narcissist by their constant need for attention and a huge focus on their own self-image.

Is trophy husband an offensive term?

Trophy husband isn’t necessarily offensive, but it can carry a negative connotation. When you call someone a “trophy husband,” you might be assuming that they’re only with their partner for the money, or that all they have to offer is their looks. While everyone has a different relationship dynamic, it’s usually not kind to infer that a man is only with their partner because it supports their expensive lifestyle. “Trophy husband” can also have another negative connotation that implies the man in the relationship is stupid or vapid. The phrase itself is like a half-compliment/half-insult, since it’s praising the man for his looks while also saying that he has nothing else to offer. Similarly, calling a stay-at-home dad a “trophy husband” can be derogatory, because it implies that being a stay-at-home parent isn’t hard work.

Signs You Are a Trophy Husband

Your partner pays for everything. One of the main markers of a trophy husband is that you don’t need your own money! If your partner loves taking you out on lavish dates and dropping tons of money on you, then you’ve probably earned the trophy husband status.

Your partner calls the shots. While this isn’t true in every trophy husband relationship, it definitely can be. Maybe you find that your partner is in charge, while you’re fine hanging out in the background and going with the flow.. This might be about small things, like where to go for dinner, or bigger things, like where you two want to live.

You spend a lot of time on your appearance. Most of us want to look good for our partners. But if you’re a trophy husband, you might find yourself preening and grooming yourself more often than usual. It’s likely because you know your partner wants you to look good, so you’d like to keep up your appearance for them. Your partner might even encourage you to stay physically fit by paying for expensive gym memberships or healthy meals.

Becoming a Trophy Husband

Focus on your looks. If you want to be someone’s arm candy, it’s important to look your best. Stay in shape, eat a healthy diet, and exude confidence. The better you look, the more likely you are to find a partner who can give you that trophy husband status.

Look for a partner who’s focused on their career. If you’re in the market to become a trophy husband, try to find a partner who can make money to support the both of you. Whether you’re looking for a woman, a man, or anyone in between, try to find someone who’s invested in their career (and hopefully makes a lot of money). Lawyers, doctors, and other high-earners are perfect for this lifestyle.

Find a partner who enjoys the finer things in life. Wealthier, older partners tend to like fine dining and fancy events. If you want to be attractive arm candy, try looking for a partner who wants to take you out on the town. That way, they’ll be more invested in making sure you look and feel your best.

Stay exclusive to your partner. If you want that “husband” title, it’s likely that you’ll have to be faithful to your partner. If you’re in a monogamous relationship, make sure that you stay focused on your partner, and don’t get distracted by people who may not support your lifestyle.

Offer to stay at home with the kids if you plan on having any. Have you always dreamed of being a parent? If you and your spouse want to have kids, but your spouse wants to keep working, this is the perfect way to become a stay-at-home parent (and a faux trophy husband). While you may still be putting in the work of raising your children, you can also relax knowing you won’t have to enter the workforce again.