Think, is there a reason you should not tell your parents? Telling them if you know they are homophobic is a whole other hurdle. You can use some roundabout conversational approaches to see if your fears are warranted. Bring up LGBTQ+ topics by saying something such as, "A girl in my friend's art class got kicked out for being a lesbian; what do you think of that?" If the answer is in favor of kicking her out, then beware that their reception to your honesty may be similar. Remember, your safety comes first, so think carefully about whether coming out will put you in danger. Ask for their opinions on LGBTQ issues and celebrities.
Make a plan B, in case they kick you out of the house. You will need to ask a friend or someone who you can trust. You need to have already come out and explain your situation to the person.
Talk to your girlfriend about what might happen. Do her parents know she is with you? You will need to talk about what to do if your parents are not okay with this. You don't want your honesty with your parents to affect her, too, if she's not ready for that step. Make sure you tackle the issue as a couple, as well as individually with your respective families.
See if your parents are even okay with you dating. If they think you are too young to even date a boy, then you should not tell them that you're dating a girl.
Consider tackling each parent separately. Telling the most understanding one first may help. This could be your father or your mother. You will probably feel safer this way. It also means you can have someone on your side.
Tell them that you really like this girl, and that's not anyone's fault. This is where you can explain that being LGBTQ is not a choice, and they need to understand that.
Give them time. They may cry, scream, kick you out, be supportive, or shrug. There are many reactions; hope for the best but be prepared for the worst. If they react badly, go to your room or leave go to a friend's house. Remember—their initial reaction is not their forever reaction.
Break it to them slowly. Have a long conversation about topics centering around relationships and sexuality. This is so they can slowly take it in. Remind your parents that you are taking a risk by having this conversation with them, and explain that what you're doing is an act of trust. If the relationship has gotten to sex already, you may want to leave that out. Unless you have health concerns or need their help and advice in this area, talking to them about sex, on top of revealing your relationship, may be a lot for them to take in all in one conversation. That being said, if they ask and you feel the situation is right, try to be honest - it may help your relationship with them.
Accept yourself, no matter what happens. Don't let your parents weigh down on your sexuality and what relationships you want to have.
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